As you and your friends begin to hang out you begin to develop habits or norms, I know my group of friends definitely do. You begin to go to the same places and do the same things. And when in our group you are expected to act certain way and do certain things. We talk a lot of crap and you are required to develop tough skin. We are also very dependable when it comes to coming through when you say you will, and if this doesn’t happen it puts a big damper on the entire group dynamic. When people come into our group that aren’t exactly normal visitors, it is easy to see what our group dynamic is. In fact people comment on it all the time. We don’t really hide who we are or how we act, I find it very funny because for the most part we don’t even notice it.
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Jrod,
ReplyDeleteI agree with your idea that you mention,"You and your friends begin to hang out you begin to develop habits and norms. I know my group of friends definitely do". Literally, we have different group norms at school, in the office, and at church. The similarity of these group norms is having the same interests, beliefs and habits. Understandably, in the meeting or discussion, most of these norms may share somethings about their lives and families, the soccer games, and the movies, etc. These norms usually do not have any conflict of interests between each other because they absolutely wants to maintain their friendship and relationship in the certain groups.
Thank you,
Kam
Hi Jrod,
ReplyDeleteIts very easy to develop habits when you start hanging out in a group and I believe the more you hang out with your friends, you guys would become more alike. I know that is the way with my friends and I. When I started hanging out with them, I notice a lot of the group norms and before I know it, I adapted to these norms and became part of the group. Most of the time, we feel comfortable in the group is because we are adapt to the group norms and think they are all acceptable. I think a person couldn’t really be part of the group, if she/he doesn’t think the group norms are something can be tolerated.
-Sogo
Jrod,
ReplyDeleteI like how you pointed out that" When people come into our group that aren’t exactly normal visitors, it is easy to see what our group dynamic is." I agree with you that the group dynamics start to show when an "outsider" is present. Sometimes it is on purpose, sometimes it's not. But we do make it aware who we are and what we are about in one way or another.
I agree with Sogo that people will not want to join a group if there group norms are intolerable. For example if the group uses a lot of extreme language and the outsider doesn't, then he may not feel comfortable and will instead look for another group.
Henry